You Were Cool
18 June '18







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Hello
June 17, 2018
I know I haven't posted in a while. It's taken me several months to get this comic out (you can tell because I'm wearing a winter coat in this comic and currently I have air conditioning on in my apartment and refuse to go outside because I will probably melt from the heat.) I received permission from my aunt and my mother to speak explicitly to the deaths of my uncles, and it is an understatement to say this was an emotional endeavour for me, though a very useful one for working through my feelings. We held Geoff's memorial service this past Friday, and so it seemed like a suitable time to put this up as everyone who knew him seeks closure in their own way.

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I wanted to write at least a little bit about my home and the people there - Nova Scotia, the maritimes. I'm glad I had the opportunity to touch on it a bit in this comic. The maritimes will always be home for me, and I love the people there. Everything that's fun, easy-going and kind in me is in large part because that's the culture I grew up in (and a big part of who my Dad is). We have Celtic roots: we love a good kitchen party and a foot stomp with our family and friends. We feel things deeply; we hold onto grudges, we love long and hard, we're stubborn as hell, we work hard, and we are generous with what we have, even if it isn't very much. We're tough as hell and won't take a handout, even if you shove it down our throats. We have great pride, and a great sense of fun and community. But we have to do a better job of making it okay, culturally, to talk about emotional pain and trauma. We also need much better access to mental healthcare in NS, especially in rural communities. The scarcity of it is appalling. I have very strong feelings about this, and I think the comic speaks for itself, so I won't go too far down that road, but the system is broken when it comes to mental health. It can't go on like this. People are dying.

If you've read this far, thank you. And thank you for reading the comic. I hope it has moved you in some way, or helped somehow, or at least made you think.

- Kelly